What the DSM means by “not having a fixed sense of identity”:
Think of someone you looked up to as a kid [older sibling, bff, cousin wtvr] and the very first time you guys got to hang out, it was exciting but you still worried about them thinking you were cool. You wanted them to know you had things in common so that they’d have no reason to dislike you.
Well that is sort of how it feels for borderlines in every social situation with an exception to the ppl we are 100% comfortable being ourselves around [favorite person. Fp, for instance].
Its not that we look up to every single person we talk to. Its that we are hypervigilant as fuck about being rejected. On a subconscious level, we would rather not risk having to feel that rejection mid conversation so its literally second nature for us to feel and believe we agree with that person during the interaction.
You might say everyone is self conscious and wants to appear agreeable at times, but the point I’m making is that we do this on a subconscious level all the damn time. Its our norm and it doesnt matter if we dont care for the other person very much. We still care about being rejected.
So you can imagine what this is like in our closer relationships. The imprinting just happens. And it happens long term. Before we know it we’ve changed our word choices, our political views based on whoever we spend the most time idealizing [this extends to famous ppl who inspire the borderline].
Ugh wanted to write more but i have to go back to work. I am well aware others experience this bpd trait differently so pls reply down below what its like for u.
Yes. My views, opinions, and tastes change depending on who I spend time with the most (or spend time at the moment). I often feel like a chameleon or a cephalopod who is blending in and always changing.
Just a little more for your research ❤
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I just discovered foodtimeline.org, which is exactly what it sounds like: centuries worth of information about FOOD. If you are writing something historical and you want a starting point for figuring out what people should be eating, this might be a good place?
CHRISTMAS CAME EARLY
this is awesome but the original link just turned into a redirect loop for me, here it is again (x)
OH HELLO
No more potatoes in medieval novels!
a few fun octopus facts:
- their arms are similar to our tongues in that their muscle fibers are oriented in three different directions
- octopuses are disconcertingly strong (anecdotal evidence says that a 15 inch wide octopus was as strong as the scientist handling it)
- on that note that same scientist said that when her octopuses escaped she would have to run behind them, “like cats” (paraphrased from sy montgomery’s the soul of an octopus)
- aquariums have “octopus enriching programs” so they don’t get bored and fuck shit up in their tanks
- they are crazy smart like. really. really fucking smart
- but we can’t compare their intelligence to ours because our evolution branched from the same common ancestor so long ago we cannot comprehend how they think
- it’s believed that their intelligence evolved when they lost their shell, and had to adapt to predict how countless of different prey and predators would act, how to avoid them, distract them, lure them or trick them
- they visualize how other creatures are going to act, which means they have have awareness that others are individuals which is a type of consciousness but i can’t remember what it’s called right now
- like, they use tools
- they have distinct personalities
- aquarium octopuses are socialized from a very young age and even though in the wild they are solitary creatures they become extremely friendly with enough human exposure
- sometimes they dislike people for no apparent reason and will shoot water at them
- they have three hearts
- each of their arms has a tiny brain that controls movement and sensory input on its own i shit you not
- they are color blind and yet they can camouflage their color and nobody knows how
- they can change the color and texture of their skin faster than human eyes can keep up with it
- great pacific octopuses are white when they are peaceful, and red when they’re excited
- aquarium octopus have escaped their tanks and slithered down pipes into the ocean
- escaped their tanks to eat the fish in other tanks
- escaped their tanks to go fight other octopuses cuz they were bored
- octopus fight club
- learned how to take photographs
- cost thousands of dollars by flooding new floors
- they can feel, taste, and smell with their suckers and all of their skin
- they enjoy tasting their food by slowly moving it through their suckers instead of shoving it in their beaks
they can rewrite their rna. no, really
- the only reason why they haven’t evolved to take over as the next dominant race is because they’re doing pretty well in the ocean so there’s no need for them to adapt further
- there’s a ton more but i’m so overwhelmed by love i can’ think of any at the moment i’m going to cry
- read the soul of an octopus by sy mongomery no she didn’t pay me i just love octopuses so much
@unforth-ninawaters Some plot bunnies for you, hun
So You Want To Make A Kickass Family History?
Family Echo: Online family tree maker
Relationship Terms: Definitions for relationships between family members
Heraldry Techniques: Tips on creating a coat of arms
Heraldry Glossary: Terms used in heraldry
Motto Generator: Generator that lets you create various mottos
Some things.
Those of you who write A/B/O, do you have a specific set of rules you build the world off of? Like can a omega male impregnate someone? Can female alphas get pregnant? Where do betas fit in? Are there any different social conventions? (Like how rude is it to sniff strangers?) Do you switch it up for different aus? How do you handle metaphor?
I switch it up, personally.
Would you like a shitpile of data on this subject?
Fuck yeah, I want a shitpile of data!
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