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@samanddeaninpanties replied to your post “@samanddeaninpanties replied to your post: I wish…”

If it’s a two person couple I need a side couple. Fics centered around one ship are fine and good but it gets stale after awhile for me depending on the word count. Which is why one of my upcoming Wincest fics has background Megstiel. Sam lives with Cas & Meg and it’s definitely gonna get to the point where the four of them are friends. 😀

It depends on the world for me. Action/Adventure AUs where other things are going on usually means there’s more going on that just the couple drama so that keeps me entertained. A good side plot can help in that respect dealing with other relationships (parent-child, friends, ect.) can help, too. But yeah, there’s gotta be something else. 

I’m excited about them all being friends though! Esp if Sam is living with Meg and Cas. 

@samanddeaninpanties replied to your post:
I wish there were more fics where, regardless of…

I prefer Megcestiel (cause poly ships are the best ships) but YES. All of them being friends is preferred. Go ahead and give Cas a dick ex but it bugs me how often Meg is given the short end of the stick as far as Cas goes.

Agreed!
Megcestiel is fine because I do love polyships but I also really like it when everyone has friends in fics where there is only a two person couple. And like, Meg isn’t that bad. She started out that way but she had a successful redemption in my mind. Dean and Sam trusted her they just snarked like crazy at each other.
(SHE DROVE THE CAR OKAY. YOU DON’T GIVE BABY TO SOMEONE YOU DON’T LIKE.)
I love Meg. Cas can have other dick exes but not Meg.

@samanddeaninpanties replied to your post

I think you worry too much about keeping everyone happy. It’s an impossible standard.

I mean, I’m more worried about driving people away from fic or inviting my own criticism because my fic damn sure ain’t perfect either. (I barely edit it. I have so little patience for that sometimes.) But, I like to think that I can handle critque or thinly veiled non-constructive criticism at this point. 

But yeah, you’re right. I do worry about making everyone happy. Sometimes I wish I could just be a dick and/or not give a shit but that never works out well for anyone. One of these days I’ll learn that I can’t make everyone happy all the time. Hopefully. 

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Yeahhhhhh I’d say don’t mention the flaws in rec lists. Those can be so demoralizing. Save that for in private chat with people who show an interest in reading it or maybe make a separate post about what you don’t like about it?

See, I feel bad for even posting about it and potentially driving people off. Like, granted, the people who won’t like it are probably beter served knowing they won’t like a thing and not to spend their time reading but I don’t want it to drive other people off or hurt anyone’s feelings. And I know there are people who will like it and I think the content is important so… 

Maybe I will leave a note or something about contacting me for details or something… 

@samanddeaninpanties
True. There’s a huge difference between self critique and self deprecation. Wanting to improve is fine, beating yourself up is not fine. But especially when it’s over stuff that it’s not that critical.

Other that “it’s all in your head” and “thinking about suicide is selfish – other people have it worse than you do” no one has ever been as blunt to me as my own negative thoughts are. It’s all implied things and conditioned responses. But, you’d be right, honestly. Like, not to be a downer, but there are times I remember shit people have done and said to me and I realize my positive role models and relationships have been few and far between. No one ever told me “you’re not good enough” but as they say, actions speak louder than words.

@samanddeaninpanties
I know. Like, obviously it’s bullshit and I could just not post fricken anything for 20 years and it would be totally fine. Logically, I know I’m not a disappointment, it’s just that stupid persistent nagging that’s there. I thought being more productive might help but nah. It’s not a productivity problem, it’s a thoughts problem.

I’m a little torn between continuing to try to meet my goal for the end of the month or purposefully refusing to meet it. On one hand, if I try I can at least have that for peace of mind, but if I choose not to play into my own weird productivity thing, I won’t have missed the goal because I said screw it. There are literally no consequences, of course, but brains are dumb.