Sometime shippers need to just shhhhh a little bit.
One of my biggest pet peeves is when shippers like to pretend that their ships are objectively better by some constantly changing standard. It’s obnoxious. Canon-ness doesn’t make something better. The absence of “problematic” stuff doesn’t make something better. The gender, race, or sexual orientation of the characters involved does not make something better. Of course you can like one ship and despise another for your own reasons, but that’s all subjective stuff.
I kind of really hate the thread of “my ship is better than your ship because yours is *bad* and mine is *good*” because it’s so subjective. If you gave me any ship I could probably come up with at least five reasons it’s “””problematic””” by tumblr standards. It’s really not that hard. (Actually that might be a fun game.) But it’s all subjective and ridiculous when the very nature of fandom is to be transformative. It’s kind of like going up to a painter and being like “this canvas is blank therefore you’re a terrible artist. no, you can’t just paint over it and make something new the canvas was blank originally! and you use too much blue!”
Also, I do get that shippers love talking about their ships, (I know, I do it myself a whole buttload) but sometimes you just wanna… talk about things without having to also talk about the ships involved. I get that this is a social media and people can and will talk about whatever the hell they want, when they want to, but it can get a little irritating at times. Of course, I realize that the only person I can control is myself so when I get annoyed I just walk away. It’s not worth it to upset other people who are just having fun. I’ll make my own post (with blackjack and hookers) instead.