Here’s my opinion no one asked for.  

I don’t like “alignment” terminology when it comes to describing non-binary gender. I also really hate the phrase “similar gender” when it’s used to describe attraction. (You know, the whole attracted to “same or similar genders” thing. wtf is that? Who decides what that even means?) To me, it feels like it imposes a “pick a side” mentality. I’ve seen “women/women-aligned people” clustered together and I’ve seen sentiments that you can be X sexuality (”wlw” mostly, which I have my own issues with but I won’t get into that now) if you’re “women-aligned” but not if you’re “man-aligned” and to me, a genderfluid person who feels strong pulls towards femininity and masculinity…. that seems like bullshit. 

I get that non-binary genders complicate things. A system that’s built off binaries that tries to adapt to a non-binary reality is bound to have some complications and issues. And I do understand that some people are comfortable and happy with alignment terminology and its helps them describe their gender and that’s awesome! But to me it seems like it’s completely ignoring the reality of being non-binary. I grew up being treated like a girl but that doesn’t change the fact that sometimes I really wanted to be a boy. I mostly like being seen as a “beautiful young lady” by others but it doesn’t change the fact that I also want to be a “handsome young man”. 

Basically, what I’m saying is that some people are comfortable and happy with “aligning” with a binary gender, but being non-binary is more complicated than being “close enough” to a man or woman.