Perhaps it’s a good thing I’m scared of the SW fandom b/c the last thing I need to write right now is the disaster that would be the Solo-Organa family Christmas dinner ft. Uncle Luke who shows up three hours late with wine and half-eaten cream puffs..
My Mom: *talks about her co-worker* … but she’s gay so…
Me: *braces self*
My Mom: so… if (my name) were gay I’d have a girlfriend for her.
Me: *peeks out from behind closet door* tell me more.
>be a genderfluid shapeshifter >crash land on an alien planet and spend the next two months hooking up with jeff goldblum for fun and profit >shithead brother shows up in the midst of your thottery >now you have to fight all his dirtbag friends including this incredibly buff woman >oh god she’s a huge lesbian >oh god YOU’RE a huge lesbian >incredibly buff woman does not know this about you and all you end up doing is staring up at her in awe >proceed to get your ass kicked because you forgot to put on the right gender when you left the house this morning
I’ve been asked many times what someone should look for when trying to find a good artist. The best way you can do this is to look at their portfolio, whether it’s in a book at their shop or online. If they don’t have good work in their portfolio, they’re probably not good artists.
The shop may be clean, the people there might be nice, and the design they draw up for you might be exactly what you want, but if your artist doesn’t stand up to the points listed above, then you’re going to get a bad tattoo.
It’s okay to walk into a shop, talk with an artist for a while, and decide you don’t want a tattoo from them. Even if the artist has a bad attitude about it or tries to convince you to just let them do it, remember this is going to be on your body for the rest of your life.
*hugs* I saw the other comments and replies to this…a certain type of manipulative abuser courts young, vulnerable or dependent people outside the family and treats them like gold. It shores them up in the public eye and in their own head it’s a way to hide from that niggling guilt that they done fucked up.
In these cases the ploy only works if they aren’t around the other person much. The more exposure the more the masquerade starts to wear off. I’ve seen this play out with my grandfather, FIL, and a friend in college. It’s not about you and is not your fault. He couldn’t care for you or treat you like you deserved because he’s incapable of that, just as he truly is incapable of It with the youth he’s mentoring. Because his kindness isn’t about them, it’s always about
Himself, and again – the longer they’re with him the more evident that will become. Hopefully they’ll have the tools to recognize the signs, cause I wouldn’t want them to be hurt, just as I wish you hadn’t been hurt.
*hugs* Thanks. I really do hope that something falls through and he doesn’t actually do mentoring or they recognize that he’s not fit for it.
What’s always pissed me off, aside from the fact that he was out mentoring other kids instead of being a father was that he was always so much better and more inspiring to them than he was at home. I get why he does it I just wish he wouldn’t for a million reasons. I hate that he gets away with it and I hate that I can’t really do anything about it. He doesn’t listen and he doesn’t really seem to get it when he’s called on his behavior or he gets defensive and… yeah. He’s a pain in the ass. It’s not fair and it’s not okay but talking about it and having people who support me helps a lot.
Hopefully something falls through and it doesn’t work out or they recognize he’s not fit for the job.
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