Tag: non spn

Hey there. I know it’s probably not a good time to ask, but when I think about you, I don’t know if to use she or he. I try to switch between them but my grammar obsessed side of the brain starts getting angry… What to choose?

Oh, no worries. It’s all good. 

For the most part, she is usually fine. If switching back and forth is difficult, I totally understand that. It’s definitely a little different. And, if you’re switching back and forth between sentences or in sentences (like if you were to say “She writes fanfic. His pirate Au is a lot of fun to read.”) does get a little confusing. If you want to pick just one and stick to it, that’s fine with me. I’m still trying to get used to it myself, and I do sometimes feel dysphoric referring to myself as “he” when I’m feeling particularly feminine. It’s a learning curve, and I’m getting used to it, too. 

 But I appreciate the fact that you asked. And never worry about asking me questions like this. I don’t mind them at all. 

Apparently, my little bro (aka Comic Book Dude) has been snooping on my tumblr.

It’s cool though, because he’s super sweet. So, little dude, if you’re reading this
1) go to sleep
2) if you’re going to read my fanfic leave a kudo, dammit
3) thank you, sincerely, for being a sweet, loving, and accepting kid. Don’t ever change.

@unforth-ninawaters replied to your post

I’ve used SO – for significant other – when I used to confront the problem that if I said “girlfriend” people might think I meant my friend who was a girl instead of the person I was dating. Perk of being married, now I can just say wife, no confusion to that one (though I still get people who reply to my saying “wife” by saying partner or something and I’m like ?????) I’ve never heard Date-mate, that’s weird to me. It sounds to me like a product to, like, freshen your

breath for a date.

*snorts* People are so odd. You’d think wife would be obvious and not up for correction, but apparently not. 

I think date-mate is a tumblr thing. I’ve seen the push for it to be used and I’m like… there are other words that don’t sound silly. Like, whatever, I’m not judging, but if someone called me their date-mate I’d give them a pretty hard side-eye.

SO, partner, prarmour, those are all fine. Those work. Hell, girlfriend or boyfrined could be fine too as long as I’m not exclusively one or the other, but it’s the slightly silly ones that bug me. Granted, I don’t have to worry about that because I’m not dating atm, but it is something I think about.  

@unforth-ninawaters replied to your post

Yeah Ren always sounds to me like the 16 year old protagonist of a JPRG.

lol. Yes! It’s just a little too, “fictional” sounding for me. 

If there’s an alternative that sounds more natural, I’d be happy to use it. Like, I prefer “paramour” or “partner”  to “date-mate”, too. “Date-mate” sounds like a board game title. 

If you ever become a parent, would you be a mom or a dad? A mom that tells dad jokes? A dad that had a mom voice? Both? Neither? Sorry I’m nosey…

No worries! I don’t mind questions at all! 

I’ve actually thought about this a bit. I’m not big on the whole, pregnancy thing. It’s just not really something I want, but I do want to be a parent some day so adoption is probably the way I’d like to go. (It kinda runs in my family, anyway.) 

I don’t really like any of the non-binary alternatives to “mom” or “dad” that I’ve seen so far. “Ren” is one I’ve seen but that seems too much like a name to me and I just don’t like it. Currently, I’m kind of thinking Mom and Dad would be fine with me but that might change. I’m also not 100% sure how to approach that with my child(ren) or teachers or other people who would ask. But I suppose I’ll cross that bridge when I eventually get to it. 

Also, I already tell a lot of dad jokes, so no matter what I’m covered there. lol. 

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people in fanfiction are so good at identifying v specific smells. I literally struggle to identify vanilla when I’m sniffing a candle labelled “VANILLA” how are these kids getting woodsmoke, rain, mint, and a whiff of byronic despair from a fuckin tshirt

Once I read a fic where they were like “he tasted like” and I’m expecting the typical formula (1 cooking ingredient + 1 natural phenomenon + “something uniquely [character name]”) but instead they said “he tasted like mouth” and it was one of the greatest fic moments of my life

click and drag to find out what your shitty fanfiction kiss tastes like

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Coffee, soft rain, and desperation.

1000% accurate.