Tag: lgbtqia+ stuff

jupiterjames:

unforth-ninawaters:

shiphitsthefan:

I have lost seven followers today. Astounding.

[clears throat, pulls out megaphone]

ACES & AROS ARE QUEER EVEN IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT.

Seriously guys, I’m gray-asexual and probably aro-spectrum (I’m still sorting that part out…) and if you don’t think we’re queer, and if you don’t think the A in QUILTBAG stands for ace/aro, you can just fuck right off my blog. I don’t usually say stuff like that but I’ve seen SO MUCH ace/aro hate during this Pride month and I’m honestly sick to death of it. We exist and we’ve absolutely had our own struggles and trying to exclude us makes you part of the problem, because if you think that cis-het people welcome us into the fold as “one of their own” with open arms I’ve got a bridge to sell you in Brooklyn, it can be yours for just a buck…

This. And the blowback I’ve seen from it are older people who like to say, “the A didn’t used to stand for ace.” Well, that’s great, Chad, but it’s not the 70s/80s anymore.

erikalynae:

Let’s talk about Brenda Howard for a sec because I feel like all of the people shouting that “het”-partnered bisexuals don’t belong at Pride are missing a good chunk of their Pride history.

Brenda was:

  • A bisexual, polyamorous woman and activist
  • In a “het” relationship with partner Larry Nelson
  • Known as the Mother of Pride for her work in organizing the first LGBT Pride events
  • A participant in the Stonewall Riots
  • An active member of the Gay Liberation Front, Gay Activists Alliance, Coalition for Lesbian and Gay Rights, BiPAC, and BiNET USA,  among others
  • Co-founder of the New York Area Bisexual Network
  • Founder of the first Alcoholics Anonymous chapter for bisexuals
  • An incredibly important figure in the LGBT community, who paved the way for Pride and LGBT activism as we know it today

“Het”-partnered bisexuals don’t just belong at Pride, they were integral to its creation.

(Bonus facts: Brenda was also Jewish, a sex worker, and an outspoken feminist. I highly recommend learning about her because she was seriously an amazing woman.)

maeamian:

Ah, time for my one Pride joke: I was talking to a conservative the other day and they asked me “How come Pride has to be in the summer? It should be in September when the kids are back in school and don’t have to see it” but I pointed out it’s right there in the bible, Pride cometh before the Fall

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Oh god, I can’t tell when I’m flirting either. I say things and then like the next day I’m thinking about it and I’m like “oh ffs that was probably flirting but like I just like to compliment my friends and make them feel loved and god fucking damn it I probably made things so awkward”. My ex would be all “Why were you flirting with that girl???” and I would be like “I was just being nice??? idk was I flirting???”

I feel this so hard. 

I suppose that’s why I’m super blunt anymore. Like, if I want to be with someone I’m just flat out like “so do you have a SO? are you interested in women? Can I have your number? ” Which always makes me nervous with girls because that can go really awesome or very very badly.