samanddeaninpanties replied to your post “Man, why do people always send positive bloggers things like “But what…”
I do think sometimes it’s anxiety. Other times it’s people who enjoy being negative. I mean… remember when you first did those character appreciation posts? And random people crapped all over them? It’s like the first instinct for some people is to make others miserable too.
On the other hand, I like preparing for all options. And I don’t think that’s a bad thing. It can help not be so disappointed if things don’t turn out the way you want. So like… good for the positive people. But a little realism never hurt anyone.
I have no doubt that some of it is people just wanting others to be miserable. Which is stupid as hell. You never know what someone is going through on the other side of the computer so undue misery is just… I personally think it’s pretty screwed up.
I get the whole realism thing but at the same token… there’s nothing wrong with not worrying about stuff, you know? Like fandom is for fun and with the state of the world right now I don’t think there’s anything wrong with finding joy in things you want to find joy in. Disappointment can happen but I think it’s more important that people deal with disappointment like adults. There’s a difference between choosing to focus on the things that make you happy and not thinking about things that would make you sad and constantly cutting off your own enjoyment because you’re too scared to even entertain ideas that would make you happy, even in fandom. I’ve seen the latter a lot under the guise of “being realistic” and to me that just seems… honestly a little pointless. Like, you’re wasting your time not being happy and enjoying things because you’re “managing your expectations” when life is like… incredibly unpredictable. It might feel like protecting yourself, but you’re not. You’re still denying yourself happiness. So you’ll be miserable now so you’re prepared for being miserable later instead of being happy now and unexpectedly miserable later. You’re gonna be miserable either way. Might as well sneak some happy in there.
Obviously I have no issue with actually managing expectations and all that but I do think it’s a little counterproductive to do the whole “what if” thing when people just want to talk about stuff they like.To me, a lot of the whole “but you need to think about X” via completely unprompted anons feels less like they’re actually trying to be realistic and more like they’re trying to vent their anxieties and/or convince someone else to be less positive. It just rubs me the wrong way, honestly.
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