
Here’s a passage from the last jedi novelization where snoke confirms outright that he had been manipulating ben by exploiting his fear of inadequacy and abandonment since he was a child.

Here’s a passage from the last jedi novelization where snoke confirms outright that he had been manipulating ben by exploiting his fear of inadequacy and abandonment since he was a child.

More practicing works, I’ve to improve my patience.
Knights of Ren with master Kylo at the forefront.You can follow my work at www.facebook.com/leliaillustrator
Phasma: How long does it take until you start hallucinating from sleep deprivation?
Kylo: I think –
Hux: Seventy two hours
Kylo: How do you –
Hux *staring into space*: There’s a jawa behind you
I don’t think there’s been a movie starring Han Solo that made him more deep and complex than Solo: A Star Wars Story, but it needs to be taken against all of the other films for the depth to really be seen.
There’s one scene in particular that plays in my mind, over and over and over again and that’s the final duel between Han and Beckett. Many people will tell you that it’s a comment on Han from A New Hope and his handling of Greedo, but I think that’s missing the forest for the wroshyr trees. For me, this particular scene in Solo has a lot more to say about the final showdown between Han and his son in The Force Awakens.
In Solo: A Star Wars Story, Han is an orphan, absent a father figure. The closest thing he gets in the course of the film is Tobias Beckett, a mouthy scooch of a criminal, taking on big jobs for people like Crimson Dawn. He takes Han under his wing and tries to show him the way of the world. It’s an example Han never got out of Lady Proxima and he certainly never got it out of the Empire when he was under their tutelage. But Beckett fills that role from the moment Han sees him on Mimban.
You can tell that Han is awed by Beckett at first sight and sticks with him from that moment forward. Even after getting betrayed by him and almost fed to a beast, Han still follows Beckett around like a lost puppy who doesn’t realize he wasn’t lost but abandoned.
Like any rebellious teenager, Han doesn’t quite gel with all of Beckett’s advice, but he still looks up to him and listens when a plan is being made. In fact, one of my favorite moments comes during the escape from Kessel, when Han realizes that the guards are on to him.
“What do I do?” he asks Beckett.
“Improvise!” Beckett responds.
“But you told me never to improvise!” Han replies, as though he’d been hanging onto every word Beckett said, so as not to mess up the plan.
It’s not quite the Han we’ve known, the one who “takes orders from just one person.” It’s a proto-Han, still learning his way.
This brings us to the duel between Han and his father figure. Han is forced to choose between his own survival and the man he’s spent the entire movie looking up to. He’s learned his lesson and fires first, killing his father figure. Because he has to, but not because he wants to. Han is such a gentle spirit beneath that would-be outlaw exterior that he races to Beckett’s side and cradles him in his death, hearing his last words and comforting him in his last moments.
Regret is painted on Han’s face.
This wasn’t something he wanted to do.
And this is all echoed as we move forward into the far future of The Force Awakens.
Han is the father figure here now. And he’s facing off against his own son. The one he wanted. The one he loved. And Ben is faced with a dilemma much like the one his father faced on that sandy cliff of Savareen.
Ben has two options, neither good in his mind. He can turn back from the dark and give up the future he wants for himself, with the power and control he seeks, or he can murder his father. And he’s torn between the two.
Han knows that his life is in peril here, and for a man who’s shot first throughout his life, the fact that he doesn’t even consider it here — and tells his son that he’d do anything for him — is very telling about how far Han has come in embracing the love that’s in his nature.
And when Ben decides to act, Han doesn’t stop him, sacrificing himself in the hopes that this will benefit his son.
Han has changed a lot over the years, but the one thing that hasn’t changed is Han’s compassion — compassion that he worked so hard over his life to suppress. In his final moments, just as he did with Beckett, he takes the time to comfort the other party of the duel. There is almost nothing more emotional for me in The Force Awakens than the moment where Han, with a lightsaber through his middle, reaches up and caresses the face of his son.
This is Han Solo.
This is the true essence of who that man is.
Full of regret over how things had to happen, with a heart full of love, even for the people who wished to kill him.
Seeing this arc play full circle from Solo all the way to The Force Awakens is a beautiful thing. We’ve seen his austere beginnings and his august ending and it closes the book on a character who is now more complex than we ever understood.
I hope the next time you watch The Force Awakens, you’re able to see the ghost of Beckett and the Han-that-was looming over that bridge, because it adds an emotion to the scene that you might not be prepared for.
The Star Wars Deep Dive: Han Solo, Beckett, and Ben | StarWars.com

OK I know this has been brought up a lot already, but since his mother is technically a Disney princess….. does this mean Kylo Ren = actual Disney prince Ben Organa-Solo ?? ?
aand to no-one’s surprise this emo space prince is my most terrible of faves
I love how in TFA Kylo could have easily read Poe’s mind as soon as he captured him, but no. He’s just like “not my fuckin job” and dumps Poe on Hux….
Only for Hux to have to call Kylo back in to do mind reading, at which point Kylo tells Hux where the map is, only to once again say “not my fuckin job” as he stomps away while Hux just stands there like >:/
You may try. But you cannot deny the truth that is your family.
ONE OF MY FAVORITE THINGS EVER
I’m really surprised no one asked after my little discussion of HP and Houses and all that. And of course you give me the hardest one to contemplate.
So this is all subjective (obvs) and based off my own interpretation, but really I think a lot of it comes down to what his biggest driving force is and who he is as a person under everything he piles on himself. (And I’m not doing that whole Kylo is X but Ben is Y because they’re the same person.)
Kylo Ben is clever and curious. He’s kind of quiet (outbursts aside, he doesn’t actually talk that much). He’s emotional. He’s also impulsive. He’s a bit of a traditionalist (don’t remember where but I’ve heard the argument that part of the tension between him and Hux is traditionalist vs technocrat and I can see that). It’s be speculated that he’s creative (calligraphy set). And he’s an idealist (the whole “I want to remake the world as I think it should be” thing). And, lest we think I’m only talking about good qualities, he’s also a snob and an elitist.
I don’t see him as a character willing to do absolutely anything to achieve his ends. To me, he doesn’t read as particularly malicious. Desperate and reactive, yes, but not malicious. A good 80% of what he does seems to be a result of trying to get the confusion and pain to stop.
All this to say I’m torn between Ravenclaw and Gryffindor. There’s no way I’d put him in Slytherin. Slytherin gets a bad rep for being malicious and deceitful, but the traits I more associate with it are ambition, cunning, and willingness to do whatever needs be done to get what you want. While he is clever and cunning, I don’t think he’s that ambitious. His main character conflict isn’t “I want power and people are stopping me” it’s “I want to not be conflicted but this stupid conscience is getting in the way”. I also think he’s more desperate than he is actually willing to do underhanded and potentially deceitful things to get what he wants. He’s not a liar. He might omit the truth to Snoke, but he doesn’t lie. He’s much more earnest than that. (If he were willing to do and say anything, he would’ve lied about Rey’s parentage. He would’ve used the fact that she wants a family more than anything against her and either told her he was related to her or that he could help her find her family.) He’s not a Hufflepuff because he’s not a good “finder” nor is he very patient. His Gryffindor traits are more to the forefront (that reckless, impulsive, proud, “I’ll give ‘em Hell” attitude he gets from both his mom and his dad) and his Ravenclaw traits are more subtextual (asking questions, trying to figure things out, thinking, all the certified nerd stuff) so it’s hard to say.
I personally would probably put him in Ravenclaw, but a solid argument could also be made for Gryffindor.