Tag: aphobia

What the fuck is this “witholding sex” shit anyway? No one owes you sex. It’s not your right to have and no one has to give it to you.

Seriously, divorce his from The Discourse for a second and think.
Does “if you don’t have sex with your partner even though you don’t want it, you’re an abusive shit” sound like “if you really loved me, you’d let me fuck you even though you’ve already said no” to you?

If yes, congrats, you have at least three functioning brain cells. If not, why? Could it be that you’re so desperate to hate ace folks that you can’t see sexual coercion when it’s right there in black and white for you?

Seriously, if you think guilting and shaming anyone for not having sex (and by extension, guilting and shaming anyone into having sex) is okay then you’re the worst kind of asshole and you need to seriously reevaluate what the fuck you’re saying and thinking.

bruddabois:

excess-of-cats:

nightmare-court:

acephobiaisajoke:

Sex is literally the most important thing in every relationship and if you take it away from your non-ace partner then you need to understand how abusive you are.

Even if they say they are completely fine with little to no sex then they are lying just to make you feel better. You. Are. Abusive.

Date another asexual person or die alone.

buddy. pal. my guy. I survived by jacking off back when I was in my long distance relationship and i’d survive jerking it if I had a sex-repulsed partner in my arms at night and if sex alone makes or breaks your relationships im awfully sorry for you because if your partner is literally not appealing if you cant fuck them and if you’d rather miss out on dating, on kissing, romantic trips, zoo visits, sleepovers, watching movies in each other’s arms, wearing each other’s clothes, baking together, all that cute romantic shit just because you cant touch their nether parts you must live a pretty boring life and im sorry for that but you don’t need to push that sad view on all of us out here by claiming sex would be the most important thing “in every relationship” which is evidently plain wrong (and the last part of ur comment is honestly borderline inhumane and simply uncalled for).

ur partner isnt withholding food or water. they aren’t insulting you or humiliating or physically punishing you or doing anything else which would be counted as abusive. 

They make use of their right of bodily autonomy which, surprise, you don’t lose when you’re dating. Saying “no, I do not want to do this” isn’t abuse no matter how you’re making it out to be. im sorry to break it to you but if you know what you signed up for when dating them theres absolutely no reason to play victim and literally paint every sex repulsed person who has the audacity of dating someone who says they don’t mind as merciless abusers.

that aside, you cannot claim to speak for every single allosexual person who says they are “completely fine with little to no sex“ and the only reason I can think of you would possibly say something such as this is to guilt someone because yes, even your partner who reassures you they are fine really isn’t fine and you are the abuser in this scenario so just go and have sex with them in order not to be abusive, and this sort of manipulation and pressure is, honestly, pretty disgustingly close to rape.

I know you often say things without really thinking about them and you probably did not have this in mind when you wrote this so I’m not blaming you here, but I am simply pointing it out that this mindset you’ve just shown is pretty damn creepy if you think about it that way.

tl,dr:

there’s no reason to go on a rant claiming to be a victim of systematic oppression just cuz you wanna get off

Hey OP wtf is wrong with you

Aphobia has jumped straight to advocating for raping your partners and I wish I could say I’m surprised