Hey there. I know it’s probably not a good time to ask, but when I think about you, I don’t know if to use she or he. I try to switch between them but my grammar obsessed side of the brain starts getting angry… What to choose?

Oh, no worries. It’s all good. 

For the most part, she is usually fine. If switching back and forth is difficult, I totally understand that. It’s definitely a little different. And, if you’re switching back and forth between sentences or in sentences (like if you were to say “She writes fanfic. His pirate Au is a lot of fun to read.”) does get a little confusing. If you want to pick just one and stick to it, that’s fine with me. I’m still trying to get used to it myself, and I do sometimes feel dysphoric referring to myself as “he” when I’m feeling particularly feminine. It’s a learning curve, and I’m getting used to it, too. 

 But I appreciate the fact that you asked. And never worry about asking me questions like this. I don’t mind them at all.